Today would have been my mom's 79th birthday. She had a Facebook page. I noticed this last year and just thought of it now because FB just sent me a reminder about her birthday (like I'd forget?) but on her birthday a year ago a bunch of people left messages on her page wishing her a happy birthday. Some were obviously in remembrance, leaving messages that made it clear they knew she was gone. But some were worded as if she was still alive and it kind of weirded me out since the only posts preceding that were mine letting everyone know of her passing and memorial details. I don't know if I should go back onto her page and remind everyone she's gone or if I should just let it go.
But in all seriousness, some of those people are just lazy and didn't read the previous posts, and others may be talking to her that wasy because it's easier/part of the process maybe? I have a friend who passed away several years ago (he was late 30s/maybe 40), and people still write on his FB page, knowing he's gone, like he's still here. Those people were close to him, though, which is why I say it may be part of the process.
There's nothing an agnostic can't do if he doesn't know whether he believes in anything or not.
You can usually tell when it's someone using her page as a way to basically say 'I know you're gone but I'm stilling thinking of you'. It's the ones that feel like someone just clicked a button because FB told them too. The thing is, I understand why. I get that sometimes you just let your brain go and do the automatic thing because there is just so much to think about these days. But it's weird that it happens. Not really good or bad. Just odd. FB knows that there are pages up that belong to people no longer living. They need to add a status so maybe the notifications that go out aren't so... obviously cold...?
Lord Loser: I see you found a new shoutbox...
Nov 25, 2019 14:44:31 GMT -5
ctheokas: What the fork is this!?!
Nov 25, 2019 15:10:54 GMT -5
Lord Loser: There's no need to shout... erm... waitaminute...
Nov 25, 2019 15:59:41 GMT -5
NYPinTA: I forget why I shut it off previously.
Nov 25, 2019 17:45:29 GMT -5
Lord Loser: IIRC... there was an upgrade, new board didn't have it..
Nov 25, 2019 19:29:27 GMT -5
NYPinTA: I think it was me who turned it off. Were the spambots getting to it? Because it's just a box I check off on the forums setting page.
Nov 27, 2019 10:06:06 GMT -5
NYPinTA: I know I had it on trying to get all the people who used to chat on Shield.TV (which is gone) and Whedonesque (which is shut down) but had no real way of getting their attention.
Nov 27, 2019 10:07:01 GMT -5
ctheokas: Happy Thanksgiving, you weirdos.
Nov 28, 2019 11:02:19 GMT -5
NYPinTA: Happy Small Business Saturday. ;P
Nov 30, 2019 13:47:30 GMT -5
ctheokas: WHY ISN'T ANYONE SHOUTING ON THIS THING!?!
Dec 21, 2019 9:14:11 GMT -5
Lord Loser: Have a good one ya bunch of weirdos...
Dec 24, 2019 19:38:04 GMT -5
NYPinTA: Happy New Year!
Jan 1, 2020 0:27:15 GMT -5